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Congratulations! Seconding everyone else here that it is completely valid to feel whatever feelings you need to about how things went. I went to 42 weeks (it's the max in the USA too) with my pregnancy, and then my midwives had me take castor oil in a smoothie as a last effort to get labor going and it worked, we had the water delivery at the birthing cottage with midwives that I had wanted! However, I hated pregnancy and had a fairly traumatic postpartum, including failed breastfeeding that I still feel guilty about, but worse than that was developing what would become what I am calling chronic SPD- that I still see Chiro for regularly so that I don't have a flare up - 3 years later. I adore my daughter to pieces and cannot imagine life without her. You can absolutely be grateful and grieving at the same time, and even a 'perfect' pregnancy and birth is traumatic. I do agree with others that therapy is incredibly helpful, I wonder if they can even help you attach your ancient feminine power ideal to the experience you had, because you rocked it, you delivered a baby, doesn't matter how.

I’m sad for you that they forced you to be induced and have a birth experience you didn’t want. Same thing happened to me in the hospital with feeling like I was surviving the experience. You don’t have to feel ungrateful for knowing your baby’s birth wasn’t what it should’ve been. Best wishes to you and your family. Women are so strong for getting through these types of experiences.

Also been a subscriber since you were living at your parents' place in your purple room. It's inspiring to see how far you've come. Congratulations on your arrival of your baby boy!!! Totally relatable! I just gave birth to my baby boy 6 months ago. Could i please request for an updated tea collection video?

I gave birth to my first child almost five months ago now and like you it didn't go as I expected. There was a point during labour when the medical team were worried about both of us and in the end I concented to an emergency cesarean rather than put us both at further risk, even though I was scared and exhausted. In the end the team did a great job of keeping me and my husband feeling calm and supported throughout the whirlwind that was happening around us. Even though the procedure and my recovery went well, a part of me feels like I had missed out of the "full" experience but I am coming to terms with that and appreciating that even if it wasn't the experience I expected doesn't mean its less special.

I had a ”schoolbook birth” when I gave birth, but psychologically it was very difficult and I felt like you - I was judt surviving it. I also didn’t feel completely part of it, because my body just did its thing and I went along with it. I was terrified the shole time and had a midwife who was entirely wrong for me snd didn’t help me at all. So in my journal it says thst everything went perfectly, but for me mentally it was a disaster and I did not have any more children. I know I would have had a different experience if the staff had been caring and worked with me. I kept asking them to tell me what to do but the only advice they gave me was to breathe slowly. So that’s what I did. I was and still am disappointed and felt let down and sort of abandoned.

CONGRATULATIONS!

Oh my goodness you poor thing. I'm so glad everything worked out in the end but you had a hard road. Enjoy your lovely baby. An exciting (and exhausting!) new chapter.

Congratulations!❤

Gefeliciteerd Loepsie! Ik werk in het ziekenhuis en er zijn zoveel vrouwen die achteraf toch 'rouwen' om de bevalling die ze hadden gewild maar niet hebben gekregen. Die gevoelens mogen er zijn! Mijn zoontje is nu 9 maanden en die rouwe gevoelens vervagen en maken weer plaats voor nieuwe herinneringen. Meer dan je best kun je niet doen zeg ik maar altijd! Het is toch een lotje uit de loterij die je trekt. Veel geluk met Floris <3! Ik kijk uit naar je nieuwe video's!

Thank you so much for sharing!❤❤❤

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Congratulations

It's strange to hear what births are like in other countries. Personally, I would never agree to giving birth at home. For me, the hospital gives me such inner peace because I know they have equipment there if something goes wrong. The first birth was normal, although the pregnancy was high-risk and I had to stay in bed for 5 months. Normally, I had contractions waiting for delivery, and we were waiting for the v.. a to open🙈. I even jumped on the ball for this. The only thing I didn't like was the approach of the midwife, because she believed that I should be prepared for childbirth (my first!) through teachings (I couldn't attend them because I had to lie in bed until the end of the pregnancy). The midwife didn't bother to read my description in the patient's chart. The second child, it was such normal day. I came to the hospital and said I had contractions, they: no, you don't. But I do. No, it's not visible on the machine. But I know they are there. The examination and... Oh my gosh, she's in labor. Unfortunately, my son's umbilical cord began to tighten on his belly and his heart rate was irregular. The midwife was literally up to her elbows in work and helped me with a decent dose of oxytocin and I gave birth in 10 minutes.

I'm childfree by choice, but my sister in law had an interesting experience with her first pregnancy. I can't speak to all of it, as it wasn't me going through it, but I do know she was in labor for what seemed like hours before the doctors decided to do a C-section because my nephew was stuck. I believe he was around 12 pounds! I remember my mom freaking out, thinking he would be brain damaged, but he came out just fine, albeit with a bit of a conehead from being stuck. It went away fairly quickly and now he's 24, married and a news anchor in Texas. Congrats on your little one! Love the dress you're wearing in this video. :)

Feel free to complain... I still got misty at the end as baby arrived!

I’m 34 weeks and I have a feeling this birth is gonna be completely different from my last one - mainly because he’s still breech so there’s a very good chance I’ll have a cesarean this time as opposed to my natural delivery last time. I won’t lie - as time goes on I feel like I have a hazy block about how most of my labor went with my last pregnancy. I have some key memories, but all in all I don’t remember the majority. Also you have time to try to get the power and labor you had hoped for if you plan for more children. Don’t let this labor define any others for you. Each one is wildly different from the one before ❤

My first birth was full on help, awful, second was so easy, nearly had him at home. Labour was an hour. ❤❤

Congratulations on the birth of Floris! It is ok to feel sad about the way the birth went. Take your time to heal. It's not your fault or the baby's fault that it went the way it went. Mine went different as well. My body and my baby didn't do squat so to say. And seeing as I was already medical the doctors at the hospital decided I needed to be induced at 40w 2d. So out of the window went my plans of some sort of waterbirth. One thing I did get was pain relief. I opted for an epidural bc contractions brought on by synthetic hormones through an IV are imo totally different than those brought on by my own brain and body. Had to request pain relief twice bc the first time I got the standard answer of: "you don't look like you have pain/can't take it anymore". This was said by a woman none the less. The thing I still hate is the fact that they made me push on my back. Something I said i really didn't want seeing as I knew it would close down my hips which makes it "harder" for baby to come out during pushing. They didn't allow me to turn on my side or any other position. By the time I was allowed to push the epidural was already out/had ran it's course so I really didn't understand it. Later on they said they didn't know why they didn't allow me another push position.

Congratulations with the birth! I’m glad you and Floris are doing well. I‘m interested in how the doula system works in your country. Taylor R. worked with a chinese doula after she gave birth in Hong Kong and it was very insightful.

Congratulations on your new baby boy, my son was induced at 42 weeks and my daughter was 1 day over but I was due to be induced the following day as she had stopped growing at 32 weeks, epidural for son but nothing for her and she was under 3 hours from first contraction to the last stitch. It's 35 years ago now but I still remember seeing them for the 1st time. ❤

I'm just here to say "happy baby" and wish you the best!

It's so pretty ❤

First, congratulations to you and your husband! I'm so glad you and baby are healthy and that things did not become dangerous for either of you. It is always hard emotionally when the birth does not go as planned though. Hopefully the next birth, should you choose to have another, will go more according to what you wish.

Please don't feel bad for feeling disappointed or conflicted. I had a very traumatic birth story (I don't wish it on anyone) and I feel like you (and everyone who had a baby) have every right to feel however you do about it.

I was induced 2x due to preeclampsia. Hospital births both times because of my bp (it's just always been high). I'm glad baby is here and I'm sorry it took so long to get it started! Sometimes they just don't want to leave! It's okay to grieve the birth you wanted. It's also important that people talk about it. I feel like so often all we hear about are the beautiful "perfect" births or the super traumatic ones. It's important to talk about the in betweens!

I can really relate. All three of my boys were born with inductions (pitocin) because labor didn't start on its own. The first was especially difficult and I had a rough time accepting it. Between hormones and new motherhood it's a lot to adjust to.

Fantastic,very beautiful makeup video, really great thanks 👍

Had my baby two months ago, and things where not as I planned. I wanted a “natural” birth. My baby was also late, and I was going to be induce , but i investigated ways to make it happen naturally. So I was walking around my neighborhood and doing some yoga and it work and I was in labor. However because I had no sleep and I was in labor for over 20 hours I got a epidural because the pain. As you all my plans where out of the window. No bathtub and pushing for 3 hours on my back. However it was not traumatized, and my baby is heathy

Congratulations and blessings!

Loepsie!!! I am soo happy to finally see baby Floris!! Yay!!! Congratulations to you and your husband!!! =^_^= I am happy that you and him came out healthy and strong!!😊🥰✌️💕🩷💗 Congratulations once again!!!💖💐💖~

Ik vind de naam Floris erg leuk 🎉❤

You never know what you’re going to get during a birth. 12 years after my one and only, I still feel lucky to be alive! I wouldn’t be here had it not been for modern medical practices. Sometimes nature is very, very cruel.

You misunderstand that what you thought homebirth would be like may not have been what it would have been like. Maybe the second birth will be a healthy home birth and you can see if what you wanted meets your expectations.

Congratulations Lucy! SO happy for you! ♥

Do you have a recommended meal plan post birth that is nutritious for new mothers?

Sorry you didn't get the birth you wanted. Totally ok to feel like something you survived rather than something you did. And it's absolutely no shame in medicating. I'm glad your hospital experience wasn't as awful as it could have been. I've got one friend who even as her kids are nearing adulthood, feels that she didn't give birth to her C-section kids...

Well, I have 2 birthing stories, my first was almost like yours, it was the first baby, and he didn't want to leave my body, the only difference is that he was planned to be birthed in the hospital, because I wanted all the help I could get, because we have a history of children taking their time in my family, it did take some time to get the medication to start working but after that it went very fast and my doctor almost didn't have time to arrive at the hospital before I had to push, but it went well she arrived just in time and I only needed one stitch. The second kid was also supposed to be a hospital birth because I had pregnancy diabetes with him, but he didn't want to wait, I woke up at 4 in the morning feeling unwell with strong Braxton hicks, but no it was him getting ready to come out, the pain went away at 5, and I did fall asleep and woke up at 6 and said to my husband that I think we have to go to the hospital the contraction has started, so I went for a shower and my water broke in the shower, so my husband called the hospital to tell them the water broke and asked if it was safe to travel by bus to the hospital, at 6:20 I had to pee, and suddenly I felt the need to push, and I panic and try to waddle back to bed, but I could feel his head slowly getting pushed out. I made it to bed in the end, and my husband had to deliver the baby while trying to call for an ambulance, the baby and my husband made it and the ambulance arrived at the same time as my husband handed me the baby, and at the same time the older one woke up.

I was born at week 46 (miscalculation by the midwives, my mom knew the dates), mom did not get the birth she had wanted as they thought she was carrying twins and back then no homebirths for those, period. She still remembers how the disappointment for it not being what she had wanted permeated in the recollection of the memory. Even now after 40 years. :} ps, this was also in the Netherlands.

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We have similar ish stories. I just gave birth 2 weeks ago, was induced (though I didn’t want to be) and was really scared of all the medical interventions that were done to me.

Best wishes!

This romanticism surroundings the birthing process is largely counterproductive and damaging to first-time mothers. Hopefully, you can overcome your disappointment and, now that you have a first-hand experience, you can manage your expectations without any harmful anti-scientific narrative. My heart goes out to you and I am very happy that you felt heard every step of the way, and had doctors who explained what is "evil" to you is not necessarily a bad thing for your child (it was what made him and you safe in the end). Sometimes, we build up the moment in our minds and around professionist around us do not explain all of the options, so when your birth-plan goes wrong, you have to make quick vital decisions that feel like they are being forced on you. I wish you and your child serenity and growth together! Goodbye!

Congratulations 👶🏻💕 anything food or closet related is what I love to watch. Also, easy vintage/retro hairstyles.

I have 3 kids and with each delivery, I could not dialate on my own without the help of the epidural. And with each pregnancy had an episiotomy. Sure there are some things I wish would have gone different but I do feel things were meant to go the way they did. I'm so grateful for modern medicine. If this was the 1800's I honestly don't believe my baby and I would have survived labor. I just could not dilate. Congrats on this new journey! It's overwhelming at times but filled with lots of love. ❤

My birth. This is kind of silly. I had been pregnant for 44 weeks. Nobody mentioned that this was any kind of danger, but this was back in the 80s so maybe they didn’t know. My doctor did the sweep during an appointment around 5 PM on October 6. I felt agitated the whole night, and just sat in a chair and read a book and didn’t want to sleep. Around 6 AM I started having contractions. During the period of my pregnancy, my doctor lost his privileges for surgery in the hospital where I lived. We decided that, if I had to have a C-section, I would have to go to a different hospital. I walked and had contractions in the hospital near my home for 10 or 12 hours. Like you, I wasn’t dilating. By the way, my doctor had told me during my first examination that he did not feel that my birth canal was going to be large enough for a baby. After 12 hours or so of contractions, I got into the pick up truck and we drove 30 miles to the other Hospital over hill and dale and many bumps. I was in terrible pain on every bump. I was like you in that I didn’t want an epidural. My labor pains were mostly in my back, and I never did feel like pushing. It was determined after another 10 hours or so that I would need a C-section, because my doctor is right and my birth canal is not large enough. I was so delirious with pain and exhausted at that point that I agreed. I will never forget lying on the operating table, and when the doctor hooked up the IV for the pain medicine and it ran up my arm, I felt it, and it was like I was punched in my face, turned away from that arm, and I was out. My daughter was born around 11:30 PM on October 7. I woke up to a beautiful, healthy baby girl. I’m in the United States, and there is very little help provided by the government for the early stages after birth. I was living several hundred miles away from my parents or any type of help. I was a nurse, so I understood the physical needs of a baby, but certainly the day-to-day activities were a total mystery to me. However, we made it through.

I am very happy to see that you are not showing your sons face. This stuff stays out in the ether forever, and it seems like people don’t care about their children’s choices. Of course, a child the age of yours cannot make a choice, but he might not like it later if his entire early childhood was documented every second. I think the most ethical approach is to keep them off of the screen until they are old enough to make a choice, and I mean like 15.

Congratulations on your healthy baby boy

I had a hard time understanding when you were saying your son’s name. The R came out a little bit more like an N. I looked it up, and now I see that Floris is a fairly common Dutch boy’s name. I don’t know if you know this, but it translates to Florence, which is a more common female name in the United States, but not really very modern. I love the name, and I’m so happy to see you. You look like you’re recovering well, and your little baby is so beautiful. Congratulations. Don’t forget to not get too busy or miss a single minute at this age, because it’s just so fleeting.

I would be interested in your garden being a subject of a video. Quite interested in what Scandinavians plant in their gardens. Glad your boy is healthy.

The scream I scrumped! Congratulations!!! 💖💖💖 Glad you are both healthy 💖